As I reflect on various aspects of military life, I am
struck by how much it reminds me of high school. From the good, bad and ugly, much
of what I endured as a teenager still rings true.
1. Being a Freshman
Moving to a new duty station is like being a freshman. No
matter how many moves you’ve done, there is still that feeling of heading off
to a new school. Will you make friends? How on earth will you find all of your
classes? What will you wear?
As a freshman, I remember the excitement and terror swirling
simultaneously. I remember searching the halls for familiar faces, hoping
someone I knew had the same lunch period as I did.
I still search for those friendly faces, but now I do it on Facebook.
Before you know it, you’re the one showing newcomers around.
2. Being a Senior
After being at our current duty station for four years, I find it
bewildering to think that in high school terms I have become the senior.
As a freshman, I remember looking up to the juniors and
seniors. Tyler, Robbie, Leigh – they were so cool. As they graduated, school
got a little lamer. I missed those role models.
I still feel that way as spouses I’ve looked up to move on
to their next duty stations. I can’t imagine not seeing some of those smiling
faces around post. They all have such grace, humor and wisdom. They, too, will
be missed.
There’s also that feeling of senioritis.
As a senior, I was eager to go off to college, learn new
things and explore a new place. That final stretch of exams was agony.
As a military spouse, as much as I dread moving, after a
while I become eager to go off to Army-knows-where, learn new things and
explore a new place. Waiting for orders can be agony.
3. Being a Transfer Student
When a Soldier gets reassigned, even on the same
installation, the transition brings with it new family readiness groups, coffee
groups, peer groups and more.
I can’t help but think of “The Breakfast Club,” which brought a brain, an athlete, a basket case, a princess and a
criminal together for detention one Saturday.
Being a transfer can be tough as you try to figure out where
you fit in.
“Put yourself out there,” people say.
Yes. But many find the prospect
of awkward conversations terrifying. I remind myself those conversations are
not nearly as excruciating as the awkward silences, so I look for others on the fringes who might feel equally as uncomfortable as I do.
Rule No. 1 of being a transfer student: pretend like
everyone else is a transfer student, too.
4. Gossip
I’ll admit I used to relish the whispered tones in high
school halls as I heard about who said what to whom. While I wasn’t at the
level of “Mean Girls,” I used to enjoy a juicy tidbit.
Now I search out a different kind of juicy tidbit. Where is a good place to get my hair done? Can anyone recommend a dry cleaner in the area? Who
offers military discounts? Where are good places to eat? What fun events are coming up?
That’s my kind of hearsay.
5. Going Steady
Remember your first serious boyfriend or girlfriend? In the glow of teen adulation, they were the center of your adolescent world and you probably would have followed them anywhere.
Military spouses, does that sound familiar?
6. Zits
Without fail, the week before the big dance - or the military ball, I always got a
giant zit.
Some things never change.
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